Last but not least， you have to find time for relaxation and thinking about your wish. So， your thoughts will be clear. Do not think about the past and all bad things that have happened！ Do not think about the future because you will move your wish into the future time！ “NO” and “NOT” are important and they do not have any place in your wish. It is better to say： “I want…” instead of “I do NOT want…”
My last advice： Live， think and act in the present！ There is enough power in the Universe！ Use your personal power to catch the success！
几条建议，它们能够帮助人们尽力把握住想要的成功。
把握成功并不是一件容易的事。首先，你必须对自己相当了解。对自己相当了解是指你要明白自己想要什么，你的个人力量有多少以及你运用这种力量以达到成功的能力。
另一件事是你必须知道以你全部的积极态度来做自己的重要性。如果你想要在生活中取得成功，你就会把精力集中在对你的健康、爱情、家庭、事业、幸福等重要的事情上。专心于这些事并且使这些事形象化。据说你将吸引积极的能力并能像一块磁铁一样吸引这种强大的能力。一天中，你可以在纸上写下你的愿望或者想说几遍就大声地说几遍你的愿望。你应该一直这样直到你的愿望成为现实。
第三，你可以穿得耀眼些，这样你就会吸引一些人，这些人最终将喜欢上你，他们可能帮上你，至少给你一个建议。穿得耀眼可以使你显得比平时状态要好。这有一门关于颜色的科学，任何人都可以为自己选择最好的颜色。
最后，你应该找到放松和对愿望进行思考的时间。这样你的思想将变得清晰。不要想那些过去的事情和所有糟糕透顶的事情！不要想失败的事情因为你要把愿望寄托在未来。否定是重要的，它们在你的愿望中没有任何位置。说出“我想要……”比说出“我不想要……”好得多。
我最后的建议是：现在要做的是生存、思考和行动。宇宙中存在足够的能力！利用你个人的能力把握成功！
Measures of Success When You’re Unemployed寻找失业的成就感
My current job search is perhaps the only time in my life where I’m finding it’s more helpful to be task-oriented rather than goal-oriented. In recent weeks， I’ve found that setting goals like： It’s necessary to get an interview with any company， seem to end in frustration.
There are so many factors I cannot control. This week， I’m trying to focus on more manageable， short-term tasks such as making three follow-up calls for the day. True， these small tasks lack the glamour of larger goals but they give my Type A personality the sense of accomplishment it craves. Being the impatient sort， it also helps to have a list of completed tasks on hand to remind myself that I am doing all I can and that is all I can ask.
For me， being laid off was like diving into cold water. I was prepared mentally but it was impossible not to feel a jolt. From day one my strategy has been to keep moving. I spend my time online at job boards， researching companies， writing introductory emails and if I’m lucky returning a phone call or two.
A job search is not a linear process. There are decisions and steps that cause you to repeat yourself. This is most difficult for a person with perfectionist tendencies such as myself. Understanding the process has forced me to reconcile the idea that success can only be measured by the completion of tasks which I can control.
But keeping busy is not the problem； the challenge is feeling like I’m making progress.
Readers， share your thoughts， advice and personal experiences on how to measure success when searching for employment.
从自己目前的求职经历中我或许有生以来第一次发现任务导向比目标导向更有帮助。我最近几周发现，诸如必须获得某公司面试机会一类的目标似乎总不能如愿实现。
有许多因素我无法控制。这周，我努力把精力放在那些更易掌控的短期任务上，如一天内打三个随访电话。的确，这些小任务虽然缺少更大目标的辉煌，但它们给了我这个A型人格的人一种深深渴望的成就感。对于缺乏耐心的我来说，手握一个已完成任务的清单，会提醒自己我已做了所有能做的事情，问了所有能问的人，这也挺有好处。
就我而言，被解雇就像是潜入了冷水中。我虽然已有心理准备，但却不可能不受到震动。从失业第一天起我的策略就是不断行动。我在网上花时间浏览招聘网站、研究公司、写自荐电子邮件，如果我够幸运，还会接到一两个电话。
求职并不是个线性过程。一些决定和步骤需要你重复自己。对于像我这样具有完美主义倾向的人来说，这是最为困难的。明白这一点也让我认同了如下看法：即成功只能通过完成自己可控制任务的情况来衡量。
但保持忙碌并不是问题，真正难的是要让自己觉得正在取得进展。
读者们，把你们如何衡量求职成功的想法、建议和亲身经历也与大家分享一下吧。
